“Don’t be pushed around by the fears in your mind, be led by the dreams in your heart” Roy T Bennett
My mission through my coaching and therapy is to transform lives; to help you to become the best version of yourself, remove your fears and enable you to live a happy life in pursuit of your dreams. It gives me a great sense of fulfillment to be witnessing the wonderful transformations within my clients, who range from those suffering from PTSD, having experienced minor or severe trauma, to individuals in need of help overcoming fears that are holding them back in their business, work, or family life. As I continue to work on my own mindset, learn more from my clients, from my extensive study, my research, my peers, and my own experiences, I feel blessed to be fulfilling my passion of compassionately helping others to live happy and abundant lives.
Although I’ve always been very focused on achieving my goals and helping others, NLP (Neuro-linguistic Programming) has helped to propel me forward in my life and work through those niggly personal fears that tend to hold us all back to varying degrees. When I was a young girl I had been bullied for a period of time by a gang of girls inside and outside of the school. It was a really scary experience, and I spent a lot of time trying really hard to avoid them. I was too fearful to tell anyone about what was happening and sought refuge by losing myself in my love of sewing and crafts. Later in life, during my role as a nurse, I again experienced bullying. This time I was ostracized by my colleagues after a friend come colleague told fabricated and malicious stories about me. Thankfully after weeks of feeling desperately unhappy at work, her actions were recognised by others and the tables turned on her. Although both cases of bullying ended several years ago, the impact of these incidents that I buried deep inside, affected my confidence, trust and self-perception. It was training as a practitioner and undergoing NLP techniques that made me recognise and freed me from the heavy emotional burden that had been affecting my life. This burden was in addition to constant expose to other people’s traumas during my career of working in busy emergency department. I didn’t realise how dealing with other’s traumas had affected me, I had locked away my emotions and never really addressed them until I had NLP coaching, Timeline Therapy™, Hypnosis and Reconsolidation of Traumatic Memory ™ therapy myself and found that I was so much lighter in heart and spirit and that my flashbacks and negative emotions linked to my traumatic experiences have left me and are no more.
I had felt a pull towards NLP since the late 80s and when I scoured my bookshelves prior to attending NLP course, I found I had 15 books on the subject. My friends laughed at me when I informed my NLP trainer that I had been dabbling in NLP for many years, as they know me as detailed person, needing know and understand a subject on the deepest possible level before incorporating it into my practice. With this knowledge about myself, I decided to take 2 separate programmes to train as an NLP practitioner, to ensure I achieved the deeper understanding I believe is necessary for me to get to the root of a problem, and to really help others.
“Seek first to understand and then to be understood” Stephen Covey
I have deep gratitude for the freedom NLP work on my own mindset has provided for me and I experience tremendous fulfillment from being able to share this work with others now too. I am passionate and deeply committed to working with my clients to overcome issues from the past to allow the future to unfold full of positivity.
“Be a light, not a judge, be a model, not a critic” Stephen Covey
I have always felt a strong calling to help other people. My mother often said that I was kind to a fault; if I’d been treated to a bag of sweets I’d share them with everyone else before taking one for myself. During the early years of my life, my Great Grandmother lived in our family home, and I took it on as my responsibility to helping her. At the grand age of four, my mother says I could be found encouraging granny to come downstairs after a period of illness and offering to help granny down the stairs by holding her hand.
It was when I was only seven years old, during my first visit to a hospital to see my teenage cousin in hospital, that I knew that I wanted to be a nurse. My mother was a radiographer and had learned of the sacrifices necessary to commit to nursing. She encouraged me to take a balanced view of why I wanted to do it and to weigh up the pros and cons. However, it didn’t matter what was said, I was solid in my belief that nursing was right for me, and in 1977 I began my nurse training in Oxford, moving to London 2 years later. I qualified as a nurse in 1982 and started my career as an emergency nurse in 1983.
Over the years working within busy emergency departments, I developed a keen interest in mental health. I began looking at individuals as a whole, as opposed to just their physical symptoms. It became clear that failing to recognise past trauma for what it is, and treating it, could be extremely detrimental to the overall health and well-being of a person. That the emotional effects of previous negative events could be long-lasting, and leading to some suffering PTSD and others deliberate self-harming to relieve their emotional distress. It was this recognition and understanding that, in part, were the catalysts for me to train as an NLP practitioner.
Since then I have qualified as a Certified Neuro linguistic Programming Master Practitioner and Coach, a certified Master Timeline Therapy ™ Master Practitioner, a certified Master Hypnotist and an certified practitioner of Reconsolidation of Traumatic Memories™ (RTM) Protocol, so that I have a plethora of capabilities, competencies, techniques and knowledge to enable me to emotionally re-engineer and transform lives.
As an individual my personal values are around freedom, beneficence, love, well-being, motivation and education of self and others. I believe in equality in every sense and have also been a Soroptimist, working to empower, enable and educate women and girls locally, nationally and internationally for the last six years. Here is a link to the Soroptimist website if you would like to find out more about what we do.
I believe that everyone has intrinsic value and the capacity to achieve anything we set our minds to. With my work, I aim to free you from any emotional obstacles that are standing in the way of whatever it is you’d like to accomplish.